It's 2014. It's obvious things are rapidly changing, evolving, and vastly different than 20 years ago. Whether it's technology, transportation, fashion, behavior, or conversation; our world has evolved to futuristic. But what about love? Falling in love, acting in love, being in love, and loving. Has that changed too? I believe it has. If you asked a person 50 years ago what their actions were and how they felt while in love and then asked someone today the answers would be different. Yes it is extremely different times, but love is a feeling and a feeling shouldn't change that drastically in my opinion.
Back then people didn't have so many distractions, complications, or temptations. The divorce rate in this day in age is over 50% in America...that's half of the couples who get married end in divorce. People who got married 50+ years ago, almost never divorce. In my opinion, it's because they loved more and didn't have all the distractions and just had each other. They talked more {face to face}, they did more activities together, they grew more together, they shared more, and there wasn't as many temptations. No Facebook, no Twitter, no Instagram, no texting, Skype, or even stupid Snapchat. None of that except one phone that connected to one answering machine. Now people get bored, lazy, cheat, don't communicate, get jealous more because of stupid things seen on stupid social media so much more over every little thing. The little things become the big things, in a bad way now because they're all built up, and then it becomes something and then there's really no relationship anymore.
The kind of love our grandparents have is actual, true love that we need to revert back to. The selflessness, the teamwork, the admiration, and making the good little things the big things. Those marriages are lasting 50+ years because of the way they were raised, the age they grew up in, without all the distractions and social media, and without all the hype. They put all the effort, poured hearts out, and gave everything to one person because they wanted to not because they felt the need to. Why isn't it the same anymore? I wish I grew up in their and age where trust meant more, where a person meant more than a phone or job, and when love meant something more.
I guarantee our grandparents did way more romantic, caring, and loving actions or words than most people these day ever will. You can call me old fashioned or nonrealistic all you want, but love used to mean more than words and now it hardly means that due to the amount of laziness or divorce. I don't live in a fantasy, I'm not asking for Prince Charming, or stuff you see in the movies. That's not real and I'm aware of that but I'm asking for honest to God love that meant something more than just saying the empty words of "i love you".
Even though I don't live in a fantasy; movies and TV shows have created this alternate world bullshit that guys {or girls} always have to do these elaborate gestures, tell incredible speeches all the time, or take on the role of someone they're not. If these people did exist we'd all have our own Chuck Bass, McDreamy, Noah Calhoun, Landon, Mr. Big, Patrick Verona, Jim Halpert, Lloyd Dobler, Jake Perry, and many more. These charactes have driven girls crazy trying to find that perfect guy to even come close to their imaginary fictional boyfriend. These people don't exist. Their actions or words don't exist. No one is like that, but can love mean as much as they mean it?
Love is shown through so many ways but we have to stop thinking about the movies and TV shows because they don't help the cause of getting back to "old love", instead we need to look to our grandparents or even parents. Because that IS real and it's seen everyday. Might not be up to the Hollywood version of standards but I think it exceeds those standards because it's real and it happened or still continues {hopefully} to happen today. We need to take away the distractions and put the love and friendship back in. Take out the temptations, the social media, the behind a phone or computer screen, and love like our grandparents did 50 years back. In reality.
the only movies that actually show the reality of love in my eyes:
1. 500 Days of Summer
2. He's Just Not That Into You
3. Stuck In Love
4. Bride Wars
5. Up
